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Pledged - Drugs, Alcohol, and Sex - Part 2


So far from what I've read of Pledged is rather typical of what you'd expect when reading about alcohol in colleges. So for this post, I'm going to write about underage drinking and my experiences with how it was handled through the four years that I was at school.

Let me preface the rest of this post with one very important point. No alcohol was EVER permitted in the sorority house.


At my university, Freshmen were not allowed to go Greek until their second semester. The university wanted to acclimate them to college life and let them transition from high school academics to college lectures. 

That said, first semester Freshman year (the semester we weren't allowed to go Greek) was the semester that I saw the most binge drinking in. There are a lot of reasons for this.

1. Many students are experiencing their first time without any form of supervision for an extended period of time. By college, you're expected to learn to live on your own. Quite frankly, …

Pledged - Drugs, Alcohol, and Sex - Part 1

One of the things that really surprised me about Pledged: The Secret Life of Sororities was the descriptions regarding drugs, alcohol, and sex. These are always touchy subjects when it comes to student organizations, and Greek organizations are often portrayed as some of the most over the top offenders. Again, my experiences were very different from those in the book. For this blog, I'll break it down by topic. 


Drugs are a huge deal in colleges, and high schools, and the outside world. We're a generation raised where current celebrities (our potential role models) gain their fame by being over the top. This usually involves being very open to drug use. A frightening number of youth say they want to be just like Miley Cyrus or Justin Bieber, and many seem to believe that habitual drug use is normal or even "cool". 

That said, Pledged still describes a very different experience than I witnessed at school. Pledged describes one chapter's "drug room" (…

Pledged - Dues

Pledged: The Secret Life of Sororites describes sororities as elitist organizations that only daughters from wealthy families can truly afford to be a part of. Others try but are unable to gather the same experiences. In truth, however, there are many different experiences that women face when paying for dues, and every chapter I've had contact with takes these experiences into consideration.

However, every Greek organization has financial responsibility as a characteristic they require. The chapter will work with you to come up with payment plans, scholarships, etc. to help you pay for dues. However, they tell you up front how much the dues cost per semester or year, and it is your responsibility to make sure you can pay them.

Different schools and different chapters also have different costs. In addition, different chapters include different things in their dues.

My chapter's dues were between $300-$400 / semester. These dues helped us maintain a budget for recruitment and sist…

Pledged - Bid Day

The Prologue of Pledged: The Secret Life of Sororities is a description of Bid Day. This description is the most absurd thing I've ever heard of. My school did not do Bid Day this way. If there are schools that DO do Bid Day this way, I'm disgusted, and the National Panhellenic Conference should probably go in to investigate. As well as those school's getting new Greek Life Advisors. Our Dean of Fraternity/Sorority Affairs would never have stood for such behavior.

The Bid Day described in Pledged begins with every Potential New Member dressed in jeans and a white t-shirt sitting on their Bid Cards in an auditorium waiting to find out what house they got into. Or if they got into one at all. (This part isn't too farfetched for me. Though my school had some differences.)

1. We didn't require a uniform. 
2. If you didn't receive a bid to any house for whatever reason, we let you know in advance. We weren't going to ask you to come all the way out, just to have yo…

Pledged - Boys Boys Boys

So Pledged: The Secret Life of Sororities starts with discussing boys. They're a common theme throughout what I've read so far. 

Seemingly, in some chapters (sorority chapters that is, not the book kind), sisters will tell each other who they are allowed to date. They'll frown upon dating GDIs (God Damn Independents), brothers of less popular fraternities, or really any guy who doesn't meet the approval of the sisters.

This was not the case in my chapter. If we felt that a guy was 'bad news' we'd tell you, but it was ultimately your decision. If the guy turned around and hurt you, though, we always sided with you. He was the one to be disowned, no matter what his social standing was.

Now there were guys that were known to be shady. We called these boys "Rusty Lyres". They went out of their way to try and date many sisters in the chapter. To the point where their 'lyre' (our sorority symbol; the instrument of the Gods) was 'rusty' and …

Pledged: The Secret Life of Sororities - A Review

So I recently picked up a book at my local thrift store: Pledged: The Secret Life of Sororities.  I won't lie, when I bought it my immediate reaction was "TSM buying up the lies so others won't be exposed to them." After I brought it home though, curiosity got the better of me and I decided to read some of it.

At first, in the Introduction, Alexandra Robbins (the author) explains how she gets a lot of hate mail from sorority women who refuse to read her book. She also claims that many sorority women that have read it write to her about having similar experiences to the women in her book.

Well, now, I couldn't be one of the women who just bashed it without at least doing a little bit of research. It's just not my style. So I decided to actually read the book.

I'm currently on page 131 of 339. So far, I'm finding some of it interesting, but all very different from my experience as an Undergraduate member of my sorority. The more I read, though, the more I …

Lessons from Frozen


So everybody’s been raving about the movie Frozen, and after finally watching it: I totally am too.

One of the major things that everyone loves about Frozen, is that it promotes ‘girl power’. AKA the idea that you don’t need to spend your entire life looking for a man just to be happy. 

More specifically, in my opinion, it tells you that you don’t need a man when you have a sister. Or 
sisters. Or idk sorority sisters. (Or if you never went Greek, friends that are like sisters)

In any case, it tells you that as long as you have each other, you don’t need a man (they’re just an added bonus if you find the right one)

I think that’s a very important point. Why, as sorority women (or women in general), should we spend 
so much time searching for ‘the one’. (And then possibly fighting with each other when we think we’ve found him, and our sisters either don’t approve or maybe even…

The Burnout Stage

So I go through this stage quite frequently. 

I give 110% to something, but then forget to make sure to take care of myself at the same time. So I grow exhausted and unproductive. Then I hate that I'm being unproductive and try to force myself to keep trekking. But that just increases the exhaustion and lack of productivity until it reaches 0%. Then I crash, recuperate, and start the cycle all over again.

I think a lot of people in today's world face similar stages. Though all at different rates. 

Currently, I reached that burnout stage again. Which has definitely decreased my productivity. I mean, I went from 2 blog posts a week to well... none last week.

I think the Burnout Stage is a problem we have in Western Civilization where we need to remember how to slow down, take a break, and enjoy the moment. 

So, I decided to try the #100HappyDays challenge, and I'll go into more detail about my progress with it in different blog posts, but starting out right now I'm struggling…

The Ideal Candidate

Recruitment, recruitment, recruitment. That's one of the biggest things in a sorority, and in life after college as well. There's a new chapter colonizing on my old campus, and it's made my friends and I discuss how we would handle things if we were in charge of a colonization. This is a list of some of the characteristics I would look for in the women I would want to recruit during colonization (or really any time in a sorority. Many even fit the type of person I would want to recruit for a company as well.)

1. Academics - In the collegiate world this would literally entail things like major, GPA, etc. Most NPC Sororities now have a minimum GPA requirement of 2.5. If I were to perform colonization interviews, though, I would take that one step further. I would ask how intensive each candidate feels their major is if they've declared one or how intense their classes are so far in any case. (Are you a heavy science major with a lot of labs and a huge time commitment, or…

What's a srat girl without her frat guy?

So with Valentine's Day having just passed, love is in the air. This post is dedicated to the question I got asked throughout college. "Why don't you ever date 'frat boys'"?

Well, my answer is simple. 
And comes in two parts. 

1. Most of the time in college I had my sights set on only one guy (my boyfriend) who I've known forever. And no he wasn't (and isn't) Greek. 
Scandalous I know.

2. For the rare periods of time that I was single and ready to mingle, I had some rules. First of all, I was over dating 'boys'. High School 
was over, and I'd raised my standards 
with my age. 
    Now, I didn't have anything against guys in fraternities; I just wasn't about to date anyone that acted like a child (fraternity or not). I had grown up, I'd seen the way I felt guys were supposed to act towards their women, and I wasn't going to settle for anything less.
    There were guys that I found worthy, but for the most part I tried to point o…

WCW: JLaw Edition

Once you get to know me you learn one very important fact: I have the biggest woman crush on Jennifer Lawrence. For so, so many reasons. 

1. We would totally be friends in real life. In fact, I would totally try to recruit her into my sorority. Then I'd want her in my fam. Actually, she kind of reminds me of my big.

2. She makes awkward cool. I'm not always the most put together person. I like to make funny faces, and I sometimes say things at the exact wrong time. I once talked to a girl during recruitment about how I had 'chimpanzee hands'. (My hands are really tiny, and my thumbs are kinda short). Luckily, she still thought I was pretty cool (or so my little tells me). Good news is: JLaw can be really inappropriate at times too. And she makes it okay.

3. Girl knows how to eat. 
    (This is where this post gets serious.) In High School I suffered from anorexia nervosa. There was a lot going on in my life at the time, and I think it was in part lashing out and in part tr…

In the beginning...

With Formal Recruitment reaching it's close at my alma mater, so many memories are coming back yet again. What better way to start a sorority blog than with the story of how I joined my sorority. Enjoy!

 I remember going through Recruitment not that long ago. Just a couple of years really. I remember being really nervous and stressed out. Thinking ‘what if they don’t like me?’ ‘What if I say something stupid?’ ‘What if I have a bad hair day?’ ‘What am I going to wear??’ It felt like the first day of High School all over again. Only worse.       My High School was pretty small. 200 to 300 kids per grade, and within each grade everyone knew each other. We’d all grown up together. For the most part we’d all been in the same school since 6th grade. Coming to a big school like Rutgers was a huge transition for me.       College to me was a brand new start. A start that had one real requirement: join a sorority. I’d known even when I was a little girl that I wanted to join a sorority. I wa…