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Pledged - Drugs, Alcohol, and Sex - Part 2

Alcohol

So far from what I've read of Pledged is rather typical of what you'd expect when reading about alcohol in colleges. So for this post, I'm going to write about underage drinking and my experiences with how it was handled through the four years that I was at school.

Let me preface the rest of this post with one very important point. No alcohol was EVER permitted in the sorority house.

Freshman

At my university, Freshmen were not allowed to go Greek until their second semester. The university wanted to acclimate them to college life and let them transition from high school academics to college lectures. 

That said, first semester Freshman year (the semester we weren't allowed to go Greek) was the semester that I saw the most binge drinking in. There are a lot of reasons for this.

1. Many students are experiencing their first time without any form of supervision for an extended period of time. By college, you're expected to learn to live on your own. Quite frankly, …

Pledged - Drugs, Alcohol, and Sex - Part 1

One of the things that really surprised me about Pledged: The Secret Life of Sororities was the descriptions regarding drugs, alcohol, and sex. These are always touchy subjects when it comes to student organizations, and Greek organizations are often portrayed as some of the most over the top offenders. Again, my experiences were very different from those in the book. For this blog, I'll break it down by topic. 

Drugs

Drugs are a huge deal in colleges, and high schools, and the outside world. We're a generation raised where current celebrities (our potential role models) gain their fame by being over the top. This usually involves being very open to drug use. A frightening number of youth say they want to be just like Miley Cyrus or Justin Bieber, and many seem to believe that habitual drug use is normal or even "cool". 

That said, Pledged still describes a very different experience than I witnessed at school. Pledged describes one chapter's "drug room" (…

Pledged - Dues

Pledged: The Secret Life of Sororites describes sororities as elitist organizations that only daughters from wealthy families can truly afford to be a part of. Others try but are unable to gather the same experiences. In truth, however, there are many different experiences that women face when paying for dues, and every chapter I've had contact with takes these experiences into consideration.

However, every Greek organization has financial responsibility as a characteristic they require. The chapter will work with you to come up with payment plans, scholarships, etc. to help you pay for dues. However, they tell you up front how much the dues cost per semester or year, and it is your responsibility to make sure you can pay them.

Different schools and different chapters also have different costs. In addition, different chapters include different things in their dues.

My chapter's dues were between $300-$400 / semester. These dues helped us maintain a budget for recruitment and sist…

Pledged - Bid Day

The Prologue of Pledged: The Secret Life of Sororities is a description of Bid Day. This description is the most absurd thing I've ever heard of. My school did not do Bid Day this way. If there are schools that DO do Bid Day this way, I'm disgusted, and the National Panhellenic Conference should probably go in to investigate. As well as those school's getting new Greek Life Advisors. Our Dean of Fraternity/Sorority Affairs would never have stood for such behavior.

The Bid Day described in Pledged begins with every Potential New Member dressed in jeans and a white t-shirt sitting on their Bid Cards in an auditorium waiting to find out what house they got into. Or if they got into one at all. (This part isn't too farfetched for me. Though my school had some differences.)

1. We didn't require a uniform. 
2. If you didn't receive a bid to any house for whatever reason, we let you know in advance. We weren't going to ask you to come all the way out, just to have yo…

Pledged - Boys Boys Boys

So Pledged: The Secret Life of Sororities starts with discussing boys. They're a common theme throughout what I've read so far. 

Seemingly, in some chapters (sorority chapters that is, not the book kind), sisters will tell each other who they are allowed to date. They'll frown upon dating GDIs (God Damn Independents), brothers of less popular fraternities, or really any guy who doesn't meet the approval of the sisters.

This was not the case in my chapter. If we felt that a guy was 'bad news' we'd tell you, but it was ultimately your decision. If the guy turned around and hurt you, though, we always sided with you. He was the one to be disowned, no matter what his social standing was.

Now there were guys that were known to be shady. We called these boys "Rusty Lyres". They went out of their way to try and date many sisters in the chapter. To the point where their 'lyre' (our sorority symbol; the instrument of the Gods) was 'rusty' and …

Pledged: The Secret Life of Sororities - A Review

So I recently picked up a book at my local thrift store: Pledged: The Secret Life of Sororities.  I won't lie, when I bought it my immediate reaction was "TSM buying up the lies so others won't be exposed to them." After I brought it home though, curiosity got the better of me and I decided to read some of it.

At first, in the Introduction, Alexandra Robbins (the author) explains how she gets a lot of hate mail from sorority women who refuse to read her book. She also claims that many sorority women that have read it write to her about having similar experiences to the women in her book.

Well, now, I couldn't be one of the women who just bashed it without at least doing a little bit of research. It's just not my style. So I decided to actually read the book.

I'm currently on page 131 of 339. So far, I'm finding some of it interesting, but all very different from my experience as an Undergraduate member of my sorority. The more I read, though, the more I …